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Long Distance Relationships 101
Why do long distance relationships seem more passionate than other types? Psychologists say that it is human nature to want what we can't have. Throw a little sexual desire into that mix and you have the kind of romantic and sexual angst that is...
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Advising on the best help with reference to relationship advice.
Advising on the best help with reference to relationship advice. When you are looking for the best information about relationship advice, you'll find it easier said than done sorting out the best information from misguided relationship advice...
Ending Relationships with Honor
Ending Relationships.
Ending a relationship is never easy. When you feel you must end a relationship most people find it challenging as they have feelings towards their partner and do not wish to hurt them.
More often than not, breaking up is...
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Responding to Criticism Without Being Defensive
In an actual war, to be attacked means to have our survival threatened. Thus, we might chose between surrender, withdrawal, or counterattack. When we feel attacked (criticized or judged) by others in conversation, we often move into that same...
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My Relationship - Am I Being Naughty or Nice?
You know the type the real nice guy/girl, or do you? What are
there motives. Some people boost their self esteem, by what
others think of them. They spend all their time being the sort
of person others expect of them. They bask in the glow of other
people saying isn't that person nice. However this is not being
honest, it is emotionally dependant and selfish. You are acting
like a chameleon and changing your personae for every person you
meet.
No one can base their self esteem on what others think of them.
In the long term you become resentful, and exert a type of
emotional blackmail to others. I am so nice and caring and
considerate to you how can you let me down, and not give me the
love I need in return.
You get others to love you when you have actually earned their
respect. Otherwise you are like a willow blowing all over the
place, superficially, people will think of you as nice, but
somewhere along the line your friends are going to fall in. You
are actually not being nice you are a "victim" a slave to the
thoughts of others.
Self esteem only comes from within. The admiration of others is
not going to give you long term satisfaction.
We are all trained as children to please others, but their is a
point in all our lives when we have to grow up and become our
own person.
You are conning yourself if you think that you can go through
your whole life like that. Actually you can and many people
before you have tried and failed.
When you start to be honest with yourself you grow as a person.
This is a difficult process for all of us, but we all need to
change to be healthy people.
There are times in life when we have to let people down, however
that is no excuse for doing so in an unfeeling manner. Be
honest, and give a valid
reason why you cannot deliver what someone wants.The first time
you do this is the hardest, because it goes against most
people's training. However it does have to be done at some
point. The first time I did it, I can remember decades later. At
the
time I thought the whole world would come to an end, but ten
seconds later the world was still spinning on the same axis.
I had taken the first step in a process which would genuinely
earn the respect of my peers, I had taken the first step to self
respect. I know it is hard to face up to the fact that you may
not always want or be able to help others, but to be true to
yourself you need to acknowledge this fact.
Stored up anger at other people is depressing to your psyche, it
crushes your soul. To be a healthy individual you have to
acknowledge your own needs, and be able to appraisse them
honestly. This is a huge step forward, you start to earn the
respect of others. I am not suggesting that you trample on other
people's feelings, but be aware at times you are going to hurt
others. Stop being emotionally greedy and thinking that love and
appreciation is your right, it isn't for any of us.
You are being weak if you feel that others can boost your moral,
it is yours and no one elses and only you can boost it. You
boost it being by being forgiving about your foibles, learning
to accept them and the fact that others will respect your
honesty. Don't be selfish learn to live.
This information is valid for both genders, as trust and respect
are the founder cornerstones for intimacy. Before you can build
this into your dating repetoire you have to build it into your
life. Honesty is a vital part of a longterm viable marriage, we
would flounder on anything less. However, we need to learn that
skill before we date successfully. When you value yourself as a
real person, you will feel less pressured and depressed.
Others who may have been shunning your company as a result of
your supressed anger will start to reappraise you. People will
like you for yourself .
About the author:
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