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What Does It Really Mean When You "Pass or Fail" A Relationship Quiz?
Q. It seems that no matter what magazine I am reading there is always some new relationship quiz being published. Aren't these a bunch of baloney?
A. Well, even baloney has a purpose if you're looking for a quick sandwich. The honest answer is...
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Cut Cupid Some Slack!
Valentine's Day! What a great idea to set aside a day for remembering those we love. It's even more than just remembering; it's romancing. But it is also a holiday that many dread. Because of the romantic tradition of this holiday,...
Is honesty always the best policy when it comes to relationships?
What about little white lies? What about when your partner asks you if this dress makes her look fat. What do you think? Is it OK to lie to a person we care about for a kind reason, like to make him feel better and more secure, or to avoid a fight....
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So, The Thing Is... I'm Feeling A Little Guilty
So, the thing is… I am feeling a little guilty. I know, I know, what’s new? I’m like the travel agent for guilt trips. Right now I’m feeling a little guilty because I am so madly in love with my little Smiley Jane, who turns two-years-old...
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Happy Relationships: Share Your Day's Activities
Even the closest couples these days (with the rare, happy
exceptions of those who work together) spend more awake time
apart in their separate careers than they do together. The
individual you are at work, no matter what career you pursue, is
very different than the person you are within your romantic
relationship.
That is why everyone loves company parties: coworkers get the
chance to see the spouses or dates of everyone else. It is
frequently a real shock to get a glimpse into a fellow worker's
private life - the domineering manager who consistently defers
to their quiet spouse, or the mousy little file clerk who
clearly dominates her extraordinarily handsome lover.
Closeness with your partner can be deepened by taking the time
to share your daily activities. We often assume that our
significant others aren't really interested in our work life. To
the contrary, when we love someone, we want to be part of their
everything. We want to vicariously live in our loved one's
world, hear what they did, who else was present, what kind of
work relationships they enjoy. We want to know the gossip that's
flying around, We want them to describe their coworkers and
their assessment of the people and events in which they are
involved.
Set aside a half hour every day for each of you to discuss what
happened that day. Pass along jokes and anything unusual that
occurred. If you use e-mail in your work, forward funny
and
interesting exchanges on to your mate - it will feel as if you
are genuinely in each other's life quite apart from the actual
time you spend together.
If your days are filled with meetings, print out your calendar
and show it to your spouse, briefly highlighting each meeting
that occurred. If you answer telephones all day, make a quick
note of funny or touching calls you receive so that you can
review them later. If you work on a production floor, keep your
eyes and ears open for interesting tidbits of conversation you
can share.
So often, we only mention the negative aspects of work job,
bitching to our mate about a difficult supervisor or a lazy
coworker. Strive to share positive feelings about your job also.
Not only will it intensify your sense of participating in each
other's lives, it will avoid that tendency to grow apart as we
forget to focus on our most important partnership because we are
too busy heading in too many directions.
If one of you doesn't work outside the home due to retirement,
disability, or family responsibilities, some activities still
filled your day - share them freely with the only person in your
life who is as interested in you as you are.
About the author:
Virginia Bola is giving away complimentary copies of "Seven
Super Simple Tips: Keep Your Marriage Fresh" from which this
article is taken. To obtain your own copy, visit:
http://www.graburl.com/x.php?1cs.
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